Forced abstinence

Forced abstinence means a complete abstention from sexual activity, which includes the sexual act as well as masturbation. Often, blissful arousal, especially in men, is also punished by various means of enforced abstinence. Forced abstinence always involves the distribution of roles. Thus, there is a dominant part, the Dom or also called Top and a submissive part, the Sub or also called Bottom.  This abstinence is imposed on the bottom by mutual consent, but in the role play of pleasure and pain, a dominatrix usually forces her slave not to feel sexual pleasure despite her arousing presence or her verbal stimulation. This often involves the use of chastity belts or penis locks where it is not possible for the wearer to be stimulated. It may also be that the dominatrix constantly monitors her slave. A high level of discipline is demanded of both partners, but especially the bottom. The length of the erotic abstinence is determined by the dominatrix, but always by agreement.

So in a role play, it can be only a few hours, while the dominatrix makes the sub as hot as possible, but he is forbidden to experience his climax. In a relationship, forced abstinence can also take place over a longer period of time, between days, weeks or even months, everything is possible here. In most cases, however, we do not speak of forced abstinence, but of sexual abstinence. The reasons for this can be, apart from the consciously chosen more intensive experience after abstinence, stress, relationship problems, illnesses or also a drastic experience. The latter points, however, are not a consciously chosen and forced abstinence but an unconscious abstinence. In addition, there can also be role equality in a relationship and both partners impose forced abstinence on themselves. Forced abstinence between Dom and sub can be a punishment, but also a highly erotic game. If the slave is released from sexual abstinence at some point, the orgasm can be experienced as all the more powerful. Even if a couple experiences their first joint orgasm after a long time, it can be experienced strongly and intensely by both partners.

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