Bondage - How does it work and what is it?

It is important that you trust your partner completely. Remember, once you or your partner are tied up, the person is completely at your mercy and almost too defenceless. Therefore, trust is the key to this sexual practice. Talk to your partner about your wishes and ideas beforehand and listen to what your partner wants and imagines. Clarify how far you want to go and are allowed to go. Watch films together that give you both an idea of what you could expect or use them to get ideas. The man can be tied to the bed to give the lady power over her husband, or the man will tie the woman to the bed. Discuss whether you would rather be the dominant partner, the one who ties up, or the submissive partner, the one who is tied up.

In general, there are two types of restraint. Simple restraint to make a person defenceless and bondage, which is usually associated with pain. In the further course of the text, we will not use bondage as a synonym, but will clearly distinguish bondage and relate it to BDSM.  

For simple bondage on the bed you need rope, handcuffs or even everyday objects such as a tie, a silk scarf or similar. In specialised shops or on the internet you can buy skin-friendly ropes, mostly made of cotton, in different lengths and thicknesses. You can also buy handcuffs that are made of rubber or padded so as not to injure your partner. Remember, your partner should always be able to free himself in an emergency.

Otherwise, all other utensils, armour tape, cable ties, all kinds of ropes or chains are also suitable for bondage to tie someone up during sex.

Not only the right rope is important in bondage eroticism, but also the right knot. The right knot is therefore important so that the tied partner, when he moves and also pulls on the rope, does not tighten the knot and thus cut off the blood supply and so that you can also easily undo the knot later without having to cut the rope, or possibly the good tie. Take your rope or scarf in the middle and hold the rope there so that both ends hang down. You now have double the rope and wrap it twice around the part of your partner's body that is to be tied up. This way you can now tie one or even two normal knots that are easy to untie and do not tighten when your partner moves. This knot is the basis for tying a woman to the bed or also for tying a man to a chair, for example. We have selected a clear and quick tutorial for you to safely tie your partner to the bed.

Theoretically, they can tie up any part of the body that you can put a rope around, so with the right bondage technique you can tie up the penis as well as the breasts during extreme bondage play. You can tie your partner to the bed, to a chair or tie another object.

For newcomers and beginners, bed restraint is best. You can use the bars or struts of your bed or, with a long rope, the legs of your bed. However, check beforehand that your bed construction or the struts can withstand tension and strain, not that your bed breaks during your bondage sex games. You don't have a bed to which you can attach the restraints? That's no reason not to do it! With 5 metal eyelets available in DIY stores and 4 ropes of the same length, depending on the size of the bed between 1-3 metres per rope, you can build a simple but sturdy bondage construction. To do this, knot all 4 ropes to one eyelet and one eyelet to each end of the rope. Place the middle eyelet under the mattress in the middle of your bed and place the ropes at each corner so that the eyes protrude a little from the corners of your bed and it looks like an X. Put the mattress back in. Put the mattress back in and the weight of the mattress and your partner will hold the construction in place. You can now attach ropes, but also handcuffs or other bodage utensils to the eyelets. The advantage is that the eyelets can be hidden under the mattress after the bondage games in bed, or you can easily take your bed restraints with you on holiday.

If you have now dared and also tried out bondage with your partner, then you can try out different bondage practices. There are not only some positions, but also different utensils. In specialised shops or on the internet you can buy special outfits for bondage or special BDSM restraints. These are belts made of leather with loops, special restraints for the penis or breasts. But even for advanced users it doesn't have to be an expensive special accessory, try out new positions, pull the ropes a little shorter and be creative.

If you have long had the idea of being tied up and experiencing what it is like to be completely at the mercy of a lady who then spoils you all around, then visit our site and book a date with the lady of your dreams. If you want it harder and are into BDSM, then our fetish ladies are exactly the right ones for you. If you want to be the dominant partner, then we can also arrange a date for you, but our ladies will only accept such dates if they have already met you several times, because trust and safety are paramount.