Choking - the game with powerlessness

Literally translated, choking sounds rather brutal: one associates choking more with a physical attack and danger to life and limb than with hot love, doesn't one? However, erotic asphyxiation can be extremely stimulating - as long as it follows certain rules! Because when the air supply is temporarily cut off, less oxygen reaches the brain. As a result, the body secretes plenty of insulin, which significantly increases arousal and orgasms are supposed to be experienced as insanely intense. In this guide, we show you how to safely choke your partner during sex; in fact, there are several choking techniques. We'll give you positions and scenarios that you can use with your partner to make choking super hot and intense. However... We first need to talk about how incredibly dangerous sexual strangling can be. We therefore advise against ever trying out gagging during sex spontaneously and without prior agreement!

Choking your sexual partner can be fatal, even if you take safety precautions and learn how to do it right or wrong. In the course of our research, we found two documented cases of death by strangulation in the USA because one partner had strangled the other during sex. Other methods of strangulation during sex/BDSM have also caused several deaths. It is likely that more people have died from strangulation during sex than we know, as there is a lack of research on this. Perhaps the partners also wanted to avoid legal action, the stated cause of death left out the sexual aspect, or the death did not occur immediately.Below are some of the most important safety issues to consider when using strangulation techniques:

• Brain damage- Restricting the blood and oxygen supply to the brain, even for a very short period of time, can lead to brain damage.
• Bruising and other physical injuries - The neck is a sensitive area. If someone is rough with it during choking, it can cause physical damage such as bruising and swelling.
• Carotid artery injury- Erotic choking has been known to cause carotid artery injury, leading to Horner's syndrome in at least one documented case. Horner's syndrome occurs when there is nerve damage to the eye, causing constriction of the pupil and drooping of the eyelid.
• Vision loss- Erotic asphyxiation can cause a type of bleeding that can lead to permanent vision loss. In one study, a patient suffered double vision after sexual asphyxiation.
• Psychological trauma- If you don't explicitly consent and are aware of the risks associated with choking during sex, it can have dire consequences. You could cause unnecessary psychological injury and trauma to yourself or your partner. One study found that choking during sex is associated with sadness, loneliness, depression and overwhelming anxiety (in women). Even when the choking situations were consensual and the person or both partners had a choking preference.
• Strangulation during sex can also lead to strokes, heart attacks and paralysis.
• Death- As mentioned earlier, it is possible to die by suffocation whether or not it is consensual sexual activity.

These are just some of the most important points to be aware of before you choke your partner during sex. Remember that injuries can also occur after a delay and not immediately after choking or deflating.

Last but not least, you should know that choking can have legal consequences. Even if your partner agrees to be choked during sex, you could be entering legally roiling waters. Your partner could "strategically" use your sexual history against you in court in a separation, for example. And in the event of an accidental death, you could be charged with murder - an explanation of your choking fetish wouldn't do you much good in that case.

There is no really safe way to strangle someone. It is and remains a potentially dangerous act. Full stop.

But that should not fundamentally stop you from trying sexual strangling. Now that you know the risks, have discussed it with your partner beforehand and have established a safe word/gesture, it's time to learn how to choke your playmate as safely as possible.The key to "safe choking" is not to strangle your partner. It's all about how you grab - it's all about finesse.

Start VERY gently. As with any sexual act, don't aggressively start by squeezing your partner's throat. You need to take it slow. Here are a few suggestions on how to approach choking gently.

We start with the so-called "light choke", where only the weight of the choking person's hand is felt. To do this, place your hand loosely on your partner's neck without exerting pressure. Your hand should be relaxed. Ask your partner if they are comfortable before you continue. Then apply light pressure so that you are more or less just holding the neck but not restricting the air/blood circulation. Ask your partner again if they agree before you continue. Intensify the pressure so that you squeeze the neck slightly while holding it.

We recommend that you never squeeze harder for a longer period of time. Provided your partner agrees, you can gradually apply more and more pressure, making sure each time that you do not hurt him. Each time you apply more pressure, stop and get feedback. You should always make sure that your partner is enjoying it and recognise whether he wants to feel more or less pressure. By the way, there is something to be said for testing choking during kissing. Choking demonstrates dominance, while an intimate kiss conveys security. A pretty good starting situation to get acquainted with choking, we think.

It is advisable for the person being choked to hold their partner's wrists during the act, especially when first experimenting with choking during sex. This way, the person being choked can give their partner feedback. If they want to choke harder, they can pull their partner's wrists towards them.

For gentler choking, their partner's wrists can be pushed away. This is a perfect way to incorporate choking into role-playing games, e.g. defending oneself against an attacker.

There are certainly many more variations of the fainting game. 

However, these five are particularly suitable for beginners. And they are also found pleasurable by many women, who, by the way, are much more often strangled than choked.

1. being choked while lying on the back

This is probably the most common position in which choking is experienced during sex. 

The person being choked lies on their back while the person choking lies on top. The best positions for choking on the back are:

The missionary position - The male partner lies on top of his partner and can choke her at the same time. This position is ideal for women who want to feel submissive during sex.

The cowgirl position - The male partner lies on his back while his female partner lies on top of him and chokes him. The riding position is ideal for women who like to be dominant during sex.

We'll make it really short: Please refrain from the idea of choking or being choked with restraints or leashes!

Some couples are desperate to constantly increase the intensity and danger they experience during choking during sex. As a result, they incorporate other objects into their sex life. Choking is then often done with a belt, a leash or even metal chains. While this may sound like fun to some, it carries extreme dangers and we really advise against it. The strangler gets even less feedback when using such "tools" than when using his hands. And we don't even want to think about the much stronger pressure and the quick, complete cutting off of the air.

Quite a few people say they like to gag during sex, especially when they reach orgasm, because it makes it feel even more intense.

This admittedly sounds very tempting, but bear in mind that pain tolerance and risk-taking can increase enormously with sexual stimulation or arousal.

In some circumstances, so much so that the strangled partner may not notice even severe pain or be able to use their safe word. And if you notice your decision-making ability diminishing when you are aroused or approaching orgasm, the lack of oxygen may further impair your self-control and judgement.

Ultimately, even experienced, trustworthy, caring partners are careful not to go too far and hurt your partner: You can simply never be 100% sure that you are still fully in control in the throes of orgasm and ecstasy. The risk is even greater if you have little or no experience with erotic asphyxiation.

For many couples, aggressive sex is all they want. The submissive partner wants to feel the power of the dominant partner and be roughly choked by him.

This is perfectly fine. In quite a few relationships, however, rough sex can become repetitive and quickly boring.

Most couples need variety in bed to keep the physical love - shall we say - spicy. Quickies, new sex positions, different locations and slower, gentler sex are often needed to keep sex life interesting.

You should adopt the same attitude when choking: it doesn't always have to be rough and demanding. You can also choke your partner in a loving, caring way. Instead of squeezing the throat, you can apply very light pressure so that you don't choke him at all. Rather, you just hold his neck loosely in your hand. This can feel incredibly intimate and affectionate. After all, the neck is a highly erogenous zone.

Choking during sex seems to be pretty common right now, especially among 18-35 year olds.

A recent US study found that about ⅔ of all women surveyed have already experienced sexual fainting. That's fine.But as with any sexual variation, not everyone is into choking their partner or being choked during sex.

For example, none of our escort ladies offer this version of sex. A not exactly small part of women and men would never dream of associating eroticism with choking.

And that is also a good thing.There are certainly dozens of other hot activities you can try out to make your sex life fun for you and your partner. And some of them can also leave you breathless quite quickly....