Pain after sex - what could be the reason?

Many women know pain during sexual intercourse, and not only the first time. Pain in the lower abdomen after sex is not as rare as you might think. Have you ever had pain after sexual intercourse and wondered where it comes from? We explain what the causes of abdominal pain, pulling, stinging or uterine pain after sexual intercourse can be. We also give you some tips so that you can enjoy the most beautiful thing in the world to the fullest.

Exclude pregnancy

First of all, you should rule out a few basic causes. Maybe you have abdominal pain after sex because you're about to become a mum? During intense intercourse in pregnancy, and especially during orgasm, the uterus contracts. This often results in uncomfortable tightness, cramps and pain. So, if a painful reaction to sexual intercourse is a new phenomenon, you should undergo a pregnancy test.

How does your foreplay look like?

Apart from a possible pregnancy, there could of course also be other causes behind the complaints. For example, it could be your foreplay. Of course, we know that sometimes you can't wait to have sex. However, if you feel pain after sex or a burning and stinging sensation in the genital area, it often has to do with foreplay. The purpose of foreplay is not just to get wet. The introduction to sexual intercourse stretches the vaginal canal, increases muscle tension and the pain level. If you are not yet wet (enough) when his penis penetrates, there will be too much friction and it can even lead to micro-tears in the sensitive vaginal mucosa. Of course, this usually causes pain in women. By prolonging the arousal phase, you can effectively avoid soreness and similar problems after intercourse. And if you really don't have time to wait for your natural lubricant to produce, gels, creams or oils are indispensable substitutes.

Vaginal muscle soreness - yes, it exists!

Maybe you haven't had sex for a while and then went a bit too wild at the weekend? Then you might notice stabbing and pulling pains as well as abdominal cramps. The female genital area is covered with muscles. Excessive strain can cause the same symptoms as after jogging, swimming or playing tennis. Fortunately, the same solution will help you here: a warm bath or hot water bottle will help the muscles relax. A break from sex for a day or two will quickly get you back into shape. Otherwise: You can train your muscles - even in the vaginal area! Practice makes perfect. With enough training, you're sure to have no more problems with pain caused by over-acidified intimate muscles.

May be because of his sperm

Although our sense of pain is actually reduced by foreplay, some women are particularly susceptible to pain during the sexual act. This is because male semen contains the local hormones prostaglandin and these support the local mediation of pain. So if you have sex without condoms and you are a particularly sensitive woman, his semen can cause you pain. The good news is that you can easily find out if your pelvic pain is caused by his sperm. Just ask yourself the following question: Do you often or even always experience pain after sex? If so, you should use condoms for a while. If the pain has then disappeared, you seem to be one of the sensitive women on whom your partner's semen has a pain-triggering effect.

Maybe an allergic reaction?

Let's stay on the subject of semen for a moment, because semen can indeed cause an allergic reaction. It is not at all uncommon for women to react to semen with discharge and burning, stabbing pain. However, other liquids or objects used during lovemaking can also cause allergies. If you regularly experience pain after intercourse, it's best to take a systematic approach. Skip a particular lube, brand of condom or sex toy and see if you still have problems. This way, you can be sure whether the toy or aid is the problem, and if so, which one. Then get rid of it and the pain will be a thing of the past.

The menstrual cycle has an influence

Many women experience sex very differently during their cycle. On some days, they have a particularly high level of desire and can take their partner's penis enormously deep. A week later, on the other hand, penetration is already extremely unpleasant and strong penetration is actually unbearable. If you also feel this way, you should definitely talk openly about it with your sweetheart. He won't want to hurt you and will be glad that you involve him. After all, there are plenty of variations in the act of love and many alternatives to vaginal sex.

Air in the vagina

Especially when things get a bit wild and the man penetrates the vagina very often, air gets into it. This causes the vaginal canal to expand and can lead to extremely unpleasant pain. You will probably find out during sex whether your cramps or the feeling of tension in your lower abdomen are actually caused by him pumping too much air into you. When your husband pushes into you, some of the air usually escapes and causes various noises. Often this process doesn't cause any pain at all and many couples have to laugh when their private parts "fart" in the middle of the act. However, if you suffer from this, you might want to stop making love. Otherwise, you don't have to do anything except wait, because the air will escape all by itself.

Is his best part quite big?

Size is not always important, but sometimes it is. Do you have pain after intercourse in certain positions, on certain days of your cycle or during a short arousal phase? Then maybe it's your partner's penis. If your partner's penis is particularly large, it probably bumps against your uterus. The constant bumping of the cervix causes irritation, which in turn can lead to nasty pain. Again, talk to your partner about this. He should thrust less hard and deep to allow you both to enjoy sex. Is the problem not limited to certain situations or do you always have pain triggered by his big dick? Then your task now is to study new sex positions! After all, there are some in which the man does not plunge so deeply into the woman and thus no longer causes pain.

Mild infections

Besides some external factors, the cause can also be internal. Almost every woman has had a bladder infection or a fungal infection. Since the female reproductive and excretory organs are located outside the body, it's easy to catch an infection. At first, the symptoms are mild, so you will certainly still want to have sex with your partner. But if it becomes uncomfortable during sexual intercourse and you really feel pain afterwards, you may have a vaginal fungus. Cystitis can also be the cause of the pain. Both of these infections are common in sexually active women, and although they can be very uncomfortable in the short term, they can be treated quickly. The best thing to do is to see your gynaecologist and ask for a prescription. After a few days of treatment, the burning and itching should subside, and after a week the infection is often completely over. However, to avoid further irritation, we recommend that you avoid vaginal penetration during this time.

Get a check-up for pelvic health problems

If sex is accompanied by pain over and over again, or if it occurs shortly after the act, there may be more serious causes. For example, cysts on the ovaries or inflammation of the uterus could be the reason. Endometriosis is also one of the triggers and occurs more often than suspected. The resulting adhesions of the uterine lining often spread unnoticed to the areas of the urinary tract and the intestines. Regular abdominal pain during or after sexual intercourse is considered the first sign of this condition. If you notice painful physical reactions to sex, you should not hesitate to see a doctor as soon as possible.    

A few tips for more pleasure without painful consequences

There are a few tips that can help you enjoy sex. Often, a few small changes in your routine before sex can help you avoid pain afterwards. For example, it can be advisable to empty your bladder and bowels before making love. This literally leaves more space for the female erectile tissue, the tense muscles and the male member. As already mentioned, foreplay plays a crucial role in fulfilling sex. As your desire increases, your uterus also rises. This lengthens your vaginal canal and makes it easier for you to receive the male penis. A lot of the pain caused by a large penis could be avoided by extensive foreplay. Of course, the riding position and other positions in which the man penetrates extremely deep should be avoided as much as possible.

Basically, if you experience any kind of pain during the act or after sex, please keep a close eye on it. If you have recurring, regular or even constant abdominal pain or other complaints, this is not normal and should be clarified. Many women endure painful sexual experiences out of love for their partner or to avoid being seen as a killjoy or frigid. However, this can and should never be the solution. For many couples, sex is an important part of their partnership. But please only if both parties involved feel well before, during and after the physical love. If something is causing you pain, you should be open about it and your partner should react to it immediately.

 

In general, however, you should not worry unnecessarily. As varied as the reasons for pain after sex can be, there is rarely any serious cause for concern. Most triggers can be eliminated quite quickly with a little patience and a few experiments.