Pain after sex - what could be the reason?

First of all, you should rule out a few basic causes. Maybe you have abdominal pain after sex because you're about to become a mum? During intense intercourse in pregnancy, and especially during orgasm, the uterus contracts. This often results in uncomfortable tightness, cramps and pain. So, if a painful reaction to sexual intercourse is a new phenomenon, you should undergo a pregnancy test.

Apart from a possible pregnancy, there could of course also be other causes behind the complaints. For example, it could be your foreplay. Of course, we know that sometimes you can't wait to have sex. However, if you feel pain after sex or a burning and stinging sensation in the genital area, it often has to do with foreplay. The purpose of foreplay is not just to get wet. The introduction to sexual intercourse stretches the vaginal canal, increases muscle tension and the pain level. If you are not yet wet (enough) when his penis penetrates, there will be too much friction and it can even lead to micro-tears in the sensitive vaginal mucosa. Of course, this usually causes pain in women. By prolonging the arousal phase, you can effectively avoid soreness and similar problems after intercourse. And if you really don't have time to wait for your natural lubricant to produce, gels, creams or oils are indispensable substitutes.

Maybe you haven't had sex for a while and then went a bit too wild at the weekend? Then you might notice stabbing and pulling pains as well as abdominal cramps. The female genital area is covered with muscles. Excessive strain can cause the same symptoms as after jogging, swimming or playing tennis. Fortunately, the same solution will help you here: a warm bath or hot water bottle will help the muscles relax. A break from sex for a day or two will quickly get you back into shape. Otherwise: You can train your muscles - even in the vaginal area! Practice makes perfect. With enough training, you're sure to have no more problems with pain caused by over-acidified intimate muscles.

Although our sense of pain is actually reduced by foreplay, some women are particularly susceptible to pain during the sexual act. This is because male semen contains the local hormones prostaglandin and these support the local mediation of pain. So if you have sex without condoms and you are a particularly sensitive woman, his semen can cause you pain. The good news is that you can easily find out if your pelvic pain is caused by his sperm. Just ask yourself the following question: Do you often or even always experience pain after sex? If so, you should use condoms for a while. If the pain has then disappeared, you seem to be one of the sensitive women on whom your partner's semen has a pain-triggering effect.

Let's stay on the subject of semen for a moment, because semen can indeed cause an allergic reaction. It is not at all uncommon for women to react to semen with discharge and burning, stabbing pain. However, other liquids or objects used during lovemaking can also cause allergies. If you regularly experience pain after intercourse, it's best to take a systematic approach. Skip a particular lube, brand of condom or sex toy and see if you still have problems. This way, you can be sure whether the toy or aid is the problem, and if so, which one. Then get rid of it and the pain will be a thing of the past.

Many women experience sex very differently during their cycle. On some days, they have a particularly high level of desire and can take their partner's penis enormously deep. A week later, on the other hand, penetration is already extremely unpleasant and strong penetration is actually unbearable. If you also feel this way, you should definitely talk openly about it with your sweetheart. He won't want to hurt you and will be glad that you involve him. After all, there are plenty of variations in the act of love and many alternatives to vaginal sex.

Especially when things get a bit wild and the man penetrates the vagina very often, air gets into it. This causes the vaginal canal to expand and can lead to extremely unpleasant pain. You will probably find out during sex whether your cramps or the feeling of tension in your lower abdomen are actually caused by him pumping too much air into you. When your husband pushes into you, some of the air usually escapes and causes various noises. Often this process doesn't cause any pain at all and many couples have to laugh when their private parts "fart" in the middle of the act. However, if you suffer from this, you might want to stop making love. Otherwise, you don't have to do anything except wait, because the air will escape all by itself.

Size is not always important, but sometimes it is. Do you have pain after intercourse in certain positions, on certain days of your cycle or during a short arousal phase? Then maybe it's your partner's penis. If your partner's penis is particularly large, it probably bumps against your uterus. The constant bumping of the cervix causes irritation, which in turn can lead to nasty pain. Again, talk to your partner about this. He should thrust less hard and deep to allow you both to enjoy sex. Is the problem not limited to certain situations or do you always have pain triggered by his big dick? Then your task now is to study new sex positions! After all, there are some in which the man does not plunge so deeply into the woman and thus no longer causes pain.

There are a few tips that can help you enjoy sex. Often, a few small changes in your routine before sex can help you avoid pain afterwards. For example, it can be advisable to empty your bladder and bowels before making love. This literally leaves more space for the female erectile tissue, the tense muscles and the male member. As already mentioned, foreplay plays a crucial role in fulfilling sex. As your desire increases, your uterus also rises. This lengthens your vaginal canal and makes it easier for you to receive the male penis. A lot of the pain caused by a large penis could be avoided by extensive foreplay. Of course, the riding position and other positions in which the man penetrates extremely deep should be avoided as much as possible.