Sexting

So what exactly does sexting mean? "Sexting" is a neologism that plays with the composition of the terms "sex" and "texting". In essence, sexual messages are sent via various platforms or directly via text message. 

The content can be short hot messages, provocative photos, sexy voice messages or even video messages. In the most detailed sense, it amounts to a visually enhanced form of phone sex. 

Sexting is thus clearly one of the forms of cybersex.

The question must first be clarified: What is cybereroticism and where does it begin? Because officially, it is by no means only about obviously sexual acts that take place at the same time.

Basically, it is not even necessary for online porn, which is often mentioned, to come into play. 

Writing erotic messages was, of course, important for newly in love couples and those who wanted to be, even before the invention of sexting. For centuries, love letters have been peppered with erotic innuendos, even if they were by no means as explicit in ancient times as they are today.

With the advent of the technological revolution, perfumed stationery was gradually replaced by discussed tapes, video messages and, of course, phone sex. As the older brother of sexting, this too already allowed simultaneous connection over long distances. 

We still find it very arousing to hear our partner's unambiguous words whispered into our ears in this way. Modern man, however, is a multi-media person. We want to see and hear, and at best also feel, smell and taste. In a world flooded with visual information, however, the visual desire is closest to us. It's not for nothing that a picture is worth a thousand words, and so the many virtual spaces of the internet are just what we need. If the possibility of a hot text message flirt was already extremely attractive, MMS functions and messanger services have made sex via WLAN irresistible. Modern smartphones also allow us to live video chat with complete strangers from wherever we want. The data volume of a standard mobile phone contract easily allows for such manoeuvres. 

The ties to permanently installed desktop workplaces are becoming more and more obsolete, and so the partner is also permanently available. Sex is no longer limited to a few hours in the evening, but is always and everywhere available in the digital framework. Within political structures in which the real world sets narrow limits to sexual development, sexting can take on meaning in the form of sexual emancipation. 

Sexting, in its true sense, is based on language images and ambiguous remarks. A suggestive "Do you want to fuck?" is far from the heart of the matter. 

For text and image alike, it should not be too much right away. If you don't want to appear pushy, approach the situation slowly, as in real life. Start with playfully indiscreet questions and indicate step by step which direction the conversation could take. Announce photos so that your counterpart has the option of rejecting them and, when it comes to visual material, bear in mind the eternal memory of the Internet.Show yourself only in such a way that you can still represent the shots even if a quickly taken screenshot is passed on. If you do not want to be recognized by others under any circumstances, make sure that nude photos cannot be attributed on the basis of special recognition features. 

Never show your face and intimate parts of your body at the same time.

Avoid tattoos or very individual pieces of jewellery in the photos. There are also erotic advantages to showing less.

A flashing nipple or a penis sticking out from under clothing alone leaves much more room for the imagination than clumsy full-body shots. 

The simple announcement that you liked last night or you touch yourself while thinking about him can already create a whole blockbuster in your head cinema. Tell her what you like about her. Ask each other where you would like to be kissed or touched. If you feel confident, you can of course move on to a series in continuation. Small stories, which, according to the format, are always interrupted after three or four sentences and leave time for additions, really turn up the sexual heat. Spiced up at the right moment with a small recording or a sexy whispered voice message, real pleasure can be created. 

If you do it cleverly, you can discreetly and playfully reveal your most secret inclinations to the other person during these talk rounds.

However, try not to invent actions that you dislike in bed. Especially not if you actually know such in reality or are together. Such an approach quickly leads to insecurities, which in turn can end in unnecessary arguments and misunderstandings.

Sexting allows for very variable introductory sentences. The classic: "I dreamt about you!" is sure to be followed by "Oh yeah, and what?" Such harmless beginnings are good, because they also make it clear whether the other person can just get involved with your offer of play without bias. Furthermore, short pieces of information such as "I'm on my way to the shower", "I'm not even dressed yet" or even more subtle "If you knew what you just interrupted me with ..." are very helpful. Virtual shopping trips to lingerie shops or toy shops can also be inviting. "Have you ever tried a Womanizer? *Link*" or "Which one should I get, *Link* the red or the black bra?" This is a great way to find a topic that can then be expanded upon very directly. "I'd love to try this with you on the beach. Just us alone in the roaring surf." Interesting places can also be brought into play. "I went hiking today. I passed a lonely high place. We should do that sometime. We'd be all alone there..." A story like that leads more quickly to "Well, if it rains, we'll just take our clothes off and I'll count the raindrops on your skin" than you might think. There are, of course, much more direct examples of sexting, but they should be considered carefully before use. "I'd spank you" or "I'll take you so hard they'll hear you in the neighbour's house" can be misunderstood. Even "I can already taste your wet lips" may be problematic, though wonderfully ambiguous.

If you want to try out sexting with a stranger, you usually only have to register with one of the various dating platforms and enter your wish there in the "About me" or "What I'm looking for" line. Even without this direct hint, if communication is reasonably open, a conversation will quickly develop there that can be carefully steered in the desired direction.Special chat rooms and groups on social media platforms also bring interested parties together. The topic enjoys such great popularity that you can probably also simply try your search engine with the query "sexting deutsch kontakte".

Sexting is also very popular among young people. The potential for abuse of this is obvious in this context. To avoid becoming a perpetrator yourself through ignorance, or a victim of stalking or defamation, respect the boundaries of electronic interaction when sending erotic messages. When having cybersex, don't give out any recordings that disparage you, don't distribute any content that is harmful to young people and check whether explicit images are actually wanted before you share them. No means no, especially when it comes to sadomasochistic content. If there are recordings of your lovemaking via WhatsApp, Zoom or similar channels, be aware that there are always possibilities to record these interactions, even if the service provider itself excludes them.

The ladies of our escort service will not offer you sexting. We attach great importance to data protection, if only to be able to offer the most detailed discretion possible. Accordingly, the ladies do not pass on their personal data. What we do offer, however, is dirty talk. Please feel free to ask for this offer.